One of the things we human beings learn at a very early age is to live vicariously. It’s what keeps a child on the edge of her seat when the trapeze artist leaves the safety of her own swing and spins into the arms of the barrel-chested guy hanging on the swing across the way. When she is a teenager watching the young actor remove his t-shirt her heart races and her palms sweat as she imagines being the ingénue. The vicarious experience motivates readers to turn pages. Years after our bodies atrophy, it gets us to spend hard earned money to watch some juiced up athlete make tens of thousands of dollars for every swing of the bat.
Simon is the center of attention for Aunts Heather & Courtney and Mommy Beth on their left--your right in the photo. |
So, when my younger daughters decided to fly to Milwaukee to
see their older sister and their new nephew, naturally my heart went with
them. While their mother and I had the
privilege of seeing Simon in the flesh first, the amount of change in size and
disposition that took place over the course of the past six weeks renders the
child they get to hold and love a different individual than the one we
met. For Simon the opportunity to be
cuddled by these adoring aunts is nothing less than the attention he feels he
deserves. After all, he knows his big smiles
will melt their hearts no matter how many times he fills his diapers. He also knows that while his mother’s sisters
may have the same curves she and his father’s sister have, only Mom has the
breasts to sustain him through this portion of his life.
Simon learns to share the limelight with a Wisconsin favorite --a Green Bay Packer helmet hood ornament. |
Being the father of three beautiful and talented daughters,
the next best thing to spending time with them is seeing them take time to
spend with each other. While Simon
cannot appreciate how difficult it is for his mother and her sisters to leave
their professions even for a short visit, as one fortunate to have completed
his time as an employee of a worthy profession his grandfather knows full well
the stress and shares this, too, vicariously.
Setting all tensions aside, Grandma Debbie and I are
thrilled to be living in a time when we can share some aspects of their visit
through social media. We have looked
forward to regular postings on both Facebook and Instagram.
Simon loves all his aunts. |
A little more than a year ago, we visited our great-nephews
in Florida for the first time. Then, we were lucky enough to see the younger
one, Isaac, when he came to Wisconsin with his parents at the same time we
visited last October. Spending time with
Isaac, Jennifer and Nelson in my estimation influenced his great-aunts, my
sisters-in-law, Kathy and Candee, to visit Simon, their great-nephew when their
nieces were in town. They made the
hundred-mile journey from Appleton to Milwaukee last Saturday.
While the vicarious experience is better than no experience
at all, it pales in comparison to being there.
As I write this post we have no specific plans to see Simon. No doubt, this is a shortcoming of being an
absentee grandparent. We will have to work on this situation and inform you of
its resolution.